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19 August 2008

Privacy & Identity Concerns

Over the past week or so it has become increasingly evident that my partner is less than comfortable with my divulging too much information through this blog. I understand his concern, but I am dedicated to keeping this blog going & therefore, I'm here to stay. However, since he is my partner and I do understand some of what he fears, I will be changing the title of the blog & taking down any mention of our last names.

He's been bombarding me with articles such as How I Stole Someone's Identity, which I think are definitely creepy, but not something I worry about on a daily basis. However, he is my partner & therefore it would be wrong of me not to at least compromise. I want to share my life through this blog & learn more about your lives as well -- but I will be trying to do this in a way which is non-threatening to the wellbeing of our family. I don't want any of my readers to think this is directly because of anything they've done, said or written -- it's purely a preventative measure. Better safe than sorry, I suppose.

I also wonder: what are some of the things you deem to private to share? I know some of you mention the real names of your children, whereas some others have opted to use nicknames. Some post where they live, some do not. Where do you draw the line? And why?

This being said, I am now title-less for the time being and I'm hoping someone could suggest a new name for the blog. If you have any ideas please comment & let me know! Also, I'd love to hear how you decided on the name for your own blog, since some of them are so fabulous! I'm looking at you Don Mills Diva, Between Loads of Laundry & Latte Mommy. Help me rename the blog & I will be forever grateful. So will my partner.

posted by Desiree at 10:11 PM

9 Comments:

Blogger Al Tucker said...

The Infernal Baby Machine?

August 20, 2008 at 10:20 AM  
Blogger Don Mills Diva said...

Don Mills is the neightborhood I live in and I'm kinda diva-ish so it was a natural fit for me.

BTW - I recently wrote about what I DON'T have privacy concerns - maybe your partner would be interested -

http://donmillsdiva.blogspot.com/2008/07/privacy-schmivacy.html

August 20, 2008 at 1:52 PM  
Blogger Desiree said...

@don mills diva: You make some good points there for sure. Perhaps in the future my partner will calm down a little about it all.

In the past there has been some harassment on the part of people he's known in the past and he's been trying to keep himself off of the internet in such a capacity.

I can understand this -- so the whole last name omission is fine with me. I have such an uncommon last name that it would be pretty easy to track me down :)

Oh, and I think I mentioned this before -- I live not so far from your area :) Hello quasi-neighbor!

August 20, 2008 at 2:02 PM  
Blogger Christina said...

I'm pretty liberal with the privacy issues. I use my real name, and my family's names. My last name is even in my photo watermark. It's known than I'm in North Texas. I have met people in real life that I met online. Yes, I worry some...but I can't let it rule my life. If someone really wants to find me, they will find me whether I use my name on my blog or not.

that said, there are pictures I won't post. Tub pictures or other "naked" pics of my daughter at off limits.

August 20, 2008 at 2:40 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I understand your partner's concerns, I tend to keep personal stuff off my blog... but I think it's up to each person what they decide to do. I also would never post pics of my kids in the bathtub, et al. That's crossing the line, in my opinion - then don't make your blog public. Anyway, to get off my soapbox now... :)

Thank you for including my blog name as one of your favorites - I'm flattered!! It took me awhile to come up with something I loved... I'm a real coffee/latte kinda girl, but most of those titles were already taken!! So I headed down a different road and named my blog after something I hate - laundry!

August 22, 2008 at 4:10 PM  
Blogger Desiree said...

@mikki roo: Anytime -- tis a fabulous name! I hope I can find something just right for my blog :)

August 22, 2008 at 4:21 PM  
Blogger lattemommy said...

Privacy issues are a tough one. People fall all over the page on that topic, and I don't think there's a right or wrong answer, really. My personal approach is pretty guarded - no names, up until a few months ago no pictures at all (now only a shot or two of me), a very general location.

You need to find the balance that works for you. I think it's great that you're trying to respect Ryan's feelings on this point. Compromise is such an important part of a relationship.

As for a name - I think that's a pretty personal thing. I'm sure one will come to you after you mull it over a bit. I came up with mine after a couple of days of brainstorming. But it boiled down to the fact that the most important thing to me right now is being a mommy, and I couldn't possibly make it through the day without my Starbucks fuel. Thus, Latte Mommy was born. Truthfully, I was really surprised it wasn't taken already! :)

Good luck - you'll find a name.

September 1, 2008 at 9:53 AM  
Blogger The Red Fantastic said...

I've been blogging for nearly 10 years and through that time I have definitely ran into a few situations where I thought I was being safe and fairly anonymous, but I definitely was not. This made me paranoid, since negative things happened to me as a result (mostly people reading things I did not intend for them personally to read).

I went a little bonkers over it and got a LiveJournal, which is nice because I can control who reads which entries. However, I don't get to have the pleasure of "meeting" new people that way, which is one of the most rewarding parts of having a blog, if you ask me. But . I do feel like I can be SUPER expressive in my LiveJournal and share all of my thoughts and sometimes, even secrets.

Since a first pregnancy is one of those things that you kind of want to share with the world, I decided to start a public blog just about the pregnancy and the baby. So far, I think it is awesome. I know my audience includes anyone on the internet, and I exclude names just so that nothing wacky happens to me again. I am sure anyone who REALLY wanted to track me down could do so, but I'm also not making it insanely easy.

My last name is also very unique, which is even a better reason to nix it from entries if you ask me! But don't lose any sleep over worrying about it - looks like you're not :)

September 24, 2008 at 11:42 PM  
Blogger Desiree said...

@the red fantastic: Yeah, my last name is also an odd one -- definitely the only one in my city, possibly province! Ha!
So I'll just use first & middle :)

September 25, 2008 at 9:38 AM  

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