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27 January 2010

On Monday Night


On Monday night an incredible thing happened.

On Monday night, Ryan put Gretchen to bed.

This might seem like a not-so-miraculous feat, however, every single night since her birth I have nursed her to sleep. Until Monday night.

On Monday night I nursed her, then handed her to daddio and said, "your turn". Upstairs he went, a few whimpers were had, she tossed & turned and eventually, they both fell asleep together.

During this event, I sat downstairs in the living room, reading (ironically enough) Elizabeth Pantley's The No Cry Sleep-Solution. I listened through the baby monitor while he held her to his chest and helped her to fall asleep. Without me.

All this time I was absolutely certain that she needed me -- needed to be nursed to sleep -- that I wasn't even willing to give anything else a chance. All I knew was that if I were to try and rock her to sleep, or snuggle her on my chest, she absolutely wouldn't have it. If mama is there, she wants milk and nothing else will do. I finally had to give in -- to let it go and say, 'alright, if I'm out of the equation, she'll have to make a compromise', and compromise she did.

On Monday night, Gretchen slept from about 9pm til 1am without waking at all.

And it was blissful.

...

PS. Gretchen was less than a day old in that photo. Oh goodness, my little baby Fawn.

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7 Comments:

Blogger The Modish Mama said...

That is really beautiful. Sometimes it harder on the Mommy than the baby ;)

January 27, 2010 at 1:09 AM  
Blogger Desiree Fawn said...

Awe, thank you -- and you're right. We have more hang ups than the wee ones <3

January 27, 2010 at 1:19 AM  
Blogger Kim said...

YAY!!!! It is hard for me to let Jeremy have that time with her and to let him comfort her. But it is SO necessary.
Here's to sleep...for BOTH of us ;)

January 27, 2010 at 10:18 AM  
OpenID heatherica said...

Aww, that's so wonderful!

I love that book, The No Cry Sleep Solution.

January 27, 2010 at 1:29 PM  
Blogger Shannon O said...

What a great story! What an accomplishment for your whole family.

I had a similar epiphany on a much smaller scale. I realized a few weeks ago, that my husband COULD COOK, he didn't 'need' me to make dinner. That while I do LOVE to cook, it is possible to be done another way, and his way just might be ok.

Letting go is not an easy thing, but at the end of it, you might just be liberated.

Maybe it's a woman thing? It's painful for me to even type this but, dare I say that we need to be needed?

Thanks for sharing.
- Shannon | Confessions of a Loving Wife

January 27, 2010 at 2:44 PM  
Blogger Amanda said...

So wonderful!!

January 27, 2010 at 3:59 PM  
Blogger ~ April ~ EnchantedDandelions said...

That's great! We've been doing something similar with our youngest Sprout (18mo). He hangs out and snuggles with daddy on the couch, while I read bedtime stories to our 3 and 4yo. A lot of the times he falls asleep.

Glad you found something that's working. ::wub:: at that picture

January 28, 2010 at 10:30 AM  

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