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31 May 2009

A Really Nice Thing Happened To Me This Afternoon

Earlier today I was nursing Gretchen in her sling while waiting in line at the store when a woman approached us. I was a little anxious because I had noticed her staring at me. She touched my arm and just as I was getting ready to defend my right to breastfeed in public she said, "It's so beautiful to see you nursing your child. It's really beautiful".

I couldn't believe it.

I had been expecting to be verbally flayed by a nosy onlooker and instead she praised me and smiled.

I think I'm still in shock.

All this time I had it all worked out in my head what I might say if someone said something negative to me about feeding my child in public, but never once did I imagine that I might be commended for it.

To the woman in the store, thank you.
I will always remember that moment.

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Blogger verygoodyear said...

This made me smile, and gave me chills. When I was visiting family recently, my grandmother came and sat next to me as I was nursing Maia at a family function and just chatted about how great it was that I was breastfeeding etc, and that made me feel fuzzy... but a STRANGER? Awesome!

May 31, 2009 at 5:13 PM  
Blogger Desiree Fawn said...

I was just so amazed. That's so wonderful that your grandmother is so supportive too!
Love the breastfeeding love!

May 31, 2009 at 5:21 PM  
Blogger Kate @ Très Lola said...

Oh that is lovely - it's so great that she came up & said it to you too... :)

May 31, 2009 at 5:22 PM  
Blogger Elly said...

Oh, that's really lovely! :) Yay for breastfeeding Mamas!

May 31, 2009 at 7:03 PM  
Blogger Rebecca said...

So great. I had a very similar experience. At Chapters with a friend and both of us were nursing. A woman, she had to be over 70, approached and said 'how lovely to see you nursing in public'. I think I may have blushed.

I think sometimes the negative people are just the loudest.

Also, as an aside, my grandfather (a farmer, now 93 years old) always would tell me how wonderful it was I was nursing, how healthy etc. He was a huge supporter - go figure!

Remember that woman forever...

May 31, 2009 at 7:38 PM  
Blogger The Red Fantastic said...

That's amazing! I would have had the same initial fear, it's always wonderful when an iffy situation turns into a positive one.

May 31, 2009 at 7:50 PM  
Blogger Desiree Fawn said...

Awe, thanks for reading guys :) It was such a nice moment.

Rebecca, that's so lovely that it happened to you too! Beautiful!

May 31, 2009 at 8:03 PM  
Blogger Maggie May said...

wow! i came here months and months ago and you were still pregnant,and now you've had this beautiful baby girl. congrats. :) and way to go on nursing. i'm now pregnant with my 3rd and can't wait to give nursies again.

May 31, 2009 at 8:29 PM  
Blogger MommyTime said...

Good for you. That's awesome. I could never manage that kind of walking and nursing, so I'm really impressed.

May 31, 2009 at 8:42 PM  
Blogger Majimo said...

Probably, the only guy commenting here but, I was under the impression that public breastfeeding is widely accepted in the Western world, and I am quite surprised that this is not the case and the "fear" you guys have is the same as the mothers in Asia.

Being from conservative Asia to be exact Singapore, I think it is less accepted and it is a true rarity to see it happening. When it does happen there are usually gaping stares that follow.

Personally, it is quite a beautiful, to see the ever increasing love bond between mother & child.

May 31, 2009 at 10:43 PM  
Blogger Melodie said...

That's so awesome!

June 1, 2009 at 12:08 AM  
Blogger Kim said...

That is lovely. I always try to give Mamas a supportive comment or two when I see them breastfeeding in public. I know I do it all the time and it is so nice when someone gives me a smile or a nice comment. I am just so proud of you that you stuck with it. I know that you've had a rough go of it, but now look at you (and that darling girl of yours!)

June 1, 2009 at 12:24 AM  
Blogger Desiree Fawn said...

Maggie: thanks for returning & leaving such a lovely comment :) I hope your pregnancy is going fabulously!

Mommytime: it took a bit to get the hang of it, but being small chested makes it easier, I think, heh :)

Majimo: it seems to be widely accepted in some circles, but there are a lot of old fashioned people with opinions of modesty and such who still think it's "disgusting" or inappropriate at best. I hope someday it will be represented as the norm -- I even buy my child books that show mama's nursing so that she sees how normal and everyday it really it!
thank you for your support! it really is SO beautiful!

melodie: I'm still riding the high -- what a nice thing for her to have said!

kim: good for you! keep praising those mamas -- I'm sure they appreciate it!

June 1, 2009 at 8:40 AM  
Blogger joy refurbished said...

Do people actually chastise you for breastfeeding? I find that difficult to comprehend.
I'm certainly glad that you were given this pleasant moment.

June 1, 2009 at 11:33 AM  
Blogger Desiree Fawn said...

There have been moments where I've had people stare me down. In a cafe a man scowled at me the entire feeding and I ignored him.
A friend of mine was approached once and told that it wasn't appropriate.
Very frustrating!

June 1, 2009 at 11:35 AM  
Blogger Megan@SortaCrunchy said...

This was so lovely to read. Made me a little teary. :)

June 1, 2009 at 11:52 AM  
Blogger Desiree Fawn said...


June 1, 2009 at 12:13 PM  
Blogger dirtydiaperlaundry.com said...

This made me a little teary eyed! I am a rogue when it comes to NIP, but it took some practice. I am always at the ready, like you said, to give someone a tongue lashing if they even think of saying something.

Amazingly, it has never ever happened. I haved NIPed in Syracuse NY, San Antonio TX, Charlotte NC, and Tampa FL. And within those, caves, amusement parks, restaurants, walking in stores, on a bench outside, etc.

I have been shocked that most of the "looks" apear to be approval.

I am so happy you got to experience a positive comment. I hope someone does that for me one day!

June 3, 2009 at 10:41 AM  
Blogger Desiree Fawn said...

It's so nice when the unexpected happens like this -- I hope someone says something lovely to you someday too!

June 3, 2009 at 11:36 AM  

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